Advice: Don’t feel sad, bad or mad
Question: Why do I hate myself for feeling sad? Every time that something happens in my life to upset me I immediately tell myself why I’m a bad person for feeling sorry for myself. I’m over reacting,...
View ArticleAdvice: Can You Imagine Getting More Than You Think You Deserve?
Question: I don’t even really know where to begin. I’m having a really hard time letting go of an ex-boyfriend. I feel so broken. When my ex and I started “dating”, we sort of “decided” on each other...
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Is She Obsessed or Open Hearted?
Advice Column Question: I am obsessed with my friend. I know obsess has a negative connotation, but I can’t think of a different one. I’m just endlessly fascinated with this friend and feel grateful...
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Being definitive is bad (yes, this is an ironic statement)
I’ve been getting triggered lately by all the experts giving me their definitive advice on the www. I don’t mind it when scientists say “this molecule does this thing…” because technically they may be...
View ArticleAdvice: Should I Quit Everything and Become a Yoga Teacher?
Question: I just turned 41 and am at something of a life impasse. I have written one book which did pretty well and am now grappling with the ‘difficult second album’ syndrome of book two. Book one was...
View ArticleAdvice: I’m terrified to write, how do I begin?
Question: I’m scared to write. No, I am debilitated when it comes to writing. People tell me I can write, that I’m a writer, bla fucking bla, but I can’t fucking write. I have my first paid freelancing...
View ArticleAdvice: What if this is all there is?
Question: I’m 55, was a stay-at-home mom, raised 4 amazing children, married for 18 years, divorced now for 13 years, had a boyfriend for a few years but that ended, working a job the past 9 years...
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Weakness
I’ve never really stopped. Even after I pushed a kid out, a few days later I had him strapped to me so I could respond to my emails and get a second draft of the book done. When I was sitting beside my...
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Advice: Is it patriarchy or is it me?
Question: When is it patriarchy and when am I being overly sensitive? Recently, at the end of a long series of complex discussions, the guy who was leading (who is maybe 10 years older than me) came...
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Should I push or should I flow? The eternal question.
I’m a pusher. I’m pushy. This is my nature. It’s who I’ve been my entire life. It’s exhausting to be a pusher but it’s also exhilarating. There’s not much more satisfying then ticking off my to do...
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Advice: How do I hate Christmas less?
Question: Advice: How do I hate Christmas less? Ya know? Answer: Yep. I know. But I don’t think you hate Christmas. I think you are grieving. I call it the un-nameable Christmas sadness and it shows...
View ArticleAdvice- The Worst Time Of My Life
This questioner didn’t call it The Worst Time Of Her Life but I identified it as such, only because I remember mine so well. So I tell you all about the worst time in my life and then I tell her what...
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A conversation about grief, loss and how best to remember.
This is an incredible question. I brought in an expert to answer it. Question: Hi Emelia, I have become close with the mother of my friend who committed suicide last year. We have only gotten to know...
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Burn Out Is Radical
*This is a re-post. I’m typing as I lay in bed with strep throat, spitting into a cup because swallowing is too painful. I’m secretly enjoying having an excuse to rest. I’d love it if it didn’t take...
View ArticleAdvice: Do I like being depressed?
8 min. I can’t help but get all emotional. Also don’t “massage your feet.” That’s the lamest advice I’ve ever given. Notes on the video above: 1. Stop. Be kind to the depression. He’s talking to you....
View ArticleMy job is not to talk about the light.
I woke up this morning and I did the first thing I do every morning…I reached for my phone. And I saw in my inbox that there was another post about light. I contemplated not reading it, but like chips...
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Remembering The Why In The First Place- Your Singular Purpose.
Maybe you don’t know it yet, or you don’t think you don’t know it yet? I look back on 20 years of creating art and now I see this web, this perfectly constructed road that lead me exactly to right now-...
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Weakness
I’ve never really stopped. Even after I pushed a kid out, a few days later I had him strapped to me so I could respond to my emails and get a second draft of the book done. When I was sitting beside my...
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Advice: Is it patriarchy or is it me?
Question: When is it patriarchy and when am I being overly sensitive? Recently, at the end of a long series of complex discussions, the guy who was leading (who is maybe 10 years older than me) came...
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Should I push or should I flow? The eternal question.
I’m a pusher. I’m pushy. This is my nature. It’s who I’ve been my entire life. It’s exhausting to be a pusher but it’s also exhilarating. There’s not much more satisfying then ticking off my to do...
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